What? Are You Kidding Me?!

You can tell from my writings that I don’t get mad very often. I do rant some when I detect something I feel is wrong. So this feeling of being mad changed to anger but has actually got me to a state of being livid. (I rarely half do or feel much. I’m an all or nothing kind of person.)

My sister is one of those people who really would give you the shirt off of her back if someone needed it. She is extremely generous and painfully honest. She goes out of her way to help people who can’t help themselves. Even to the point of diving into her own pocket.

For a year now she has been helping a friend of hers who’s husband died. One of those who’s husband did everything outside the house. She has a small farm with chickens, horses, cows, dogs and a goat. She has no clue how to do much of anything beyond feeding the animals and basic care for them.

My sister has been helping her clean out her garage for several months. When she found several pairs of nice sunglasses, my sister sold them online and have her the money. When she found several pairs of shoes in great condition, my sister sold then online and gave her the money. This was my sister’s idea and getting money for those things was a total surprise to her friend.

Well, when her birthday came around my sister had our cousin help her connect a new surround sound system for her. All my sister really had to buy/replace was the main component, everything else was in place. So my sister gave our cousin an old chain saw and one that was taken apart and in a box that she found while cleaning out the garage in exchange for payment. Seemed like a fair trade. He is one of “those” guys… lol.

Yesterday, her friend wanted to know what happened to them. Apparently, one of them was her deceased husband’s favorite. This escalates with her calling my sister a thief. This was a crushing blow. My sister might be impulsive, overbearing and somewhat arrogant at times but thief is extreme.

Now I know the definition of stealing but there is also an element of intent attached there somewhere too. I guess this is really the piece that has me rocked. Even in a court of law they have to prove intent.

I’m mad because I know my sister and a thief she is not. Anyone who knows her at least knows that much. I’m mad because I can’t undo the harm this has done to her. It’s a horrible thing to be accused of something you didn’t do. Especially someone who use to call you friend.

I know I can’t “fix” this. I know I can’t make it go away. I know I can only be the ear and shoulder for her to lean on but it still makes me mad because I know she is hurt.

Would you say anything to “the friend” or would you stay out of it?

Stay safe and Good bless.

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Choices and Decisions

I still struggle with people who make bad choices. It isn’t that hard to make good choices so why do they do it? I use to think they were just lazy. That is still possible. I use to think they didn’t have the mental capacity to make a good choice. That too is still possible. At times it seems that people are just plain mean. That is certainly possible too. But maybe they really don’t know the difference.

If you grow up somewhere where it is normal to wear your clothes inside out, then that is your normal. If the same goes for learning morality and the difference between right and wrong, then it would stand to reason they really don’t understand the difference.

In the justice system, a person is deemed unable to defend themselves in court if they honestly don’t understand the difference between right and wrong. Doctors evaluate these defendants in order to make this determination. This eliminates the people who make bad choices on purpose, or because they are lazy, or because they are mean. They are left with the only possible reason which is a mental defect. But what does that really mean?

Not all children learn good behavior as they grow up. The lack of mentors and adequate supervision leave some children to essentially raise themselves. Not all children who are in these situations consistently make bad choices but they have the potential to fall into that pattern. That is where the old adage “it takes a village to raise a child” comes from.

Wiki says this. “It takes a village is a proverb that leverages the cultural context and belief that it takes an entire community to raise a child. A child has the best ability to become healthy adults if the entire community takes an active role in contributing to the rearing of the child.”

Of course this would need to be a village where it is safe and healthy for children. We know not all villages are safe and healthy. That’s just the way the world is.

All of life is burdened with choices. From the moment we wake up until the moment we go to sleep. Not all are a decision between right and wrong. But all have consequences depending on the situation.

We have to make decisions everyday and we need to be petitioning Christ to help us make them correctly. I’m not sure what set me off on this topic but after re reading and pondering what really matters, this is what I am left with…

Becoming a Christian is a one time life changing decision. Being a Christ follower requires moment by moment deliberate action. — Me.

God bless and stay safe.

Singing in the Rain

I have enjoyed the few times I have been caught in the rain with a special someone. On a day when getting drenched didn’t matter as much as having fun.

Well, this morning I woke up with a song in my head. I unconsciously allowed it to repeat over and over. It is a good song. But I started to realize something.

I’ve read scripture, I think in Revelation, that we will sing praises to God when we get to Heaven. I use to wonder how that could work if we were busy doing other things. Not sure what other things we would be doing but continual praise and worship sounded too good to be true.

But then I realized if I could do it now, here, that I would certainly be able to in Heaven.

Being Nominated for the The Liebster Award

It has only been in the last few years that I have been able to say “Thank You” to people who say or do nice things for me. I was good at exiting the scene before those laments started to fly. I guess I never learned how to accept them without feeling embarrassed or unworthy and I didn’t want to show my then crimson facial glow. Now I can accept “Thanks” with a nudge from God. After all, I am living for Him so it isn’t really for me. See how I side stepped that…lol.

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A million “Thank You’s” Kat for nominating me for this award. Like you, I always thought the cool people got the awards. Those that stand out in the crowd as special or gifted or the over achievers where everything they do miraculously turns into gold.

Kat’s questions to me:

What or who inspires you?

Watching and interacting with Christians as they go through adversity. I love watching people have fun and all, but learning how to deal with the not-so-fun things are more valuable.

Why do you blog?

I want people to know it is OK to mess up. To not have to be perfect to be accepted. To not have to live with guilt and regret for a past you cannot change. To know that bad choices do not define us unless we allow them to. Jesus paid the price for all our sin, no matter how big or small so let it go!

If you could spend a day with someone (real, fictional, alive or dead) who would it be and why?

My grandfather Emerson. He died when I was three so I barely remember him. But my dad tells me stories of his childhood and about the brief time I spent with him and his stories fascinate me. He was a true man of God with a high moral character and tons of patience. I’ll write why in a blog soon.

If you could ask 3 fictional characters a question, who would it be and what would you ask each?

  • Superman – What does it feel like to have supernatural power like flying?
  • Count Dracula – What does it feel like to be immortal (almost)?
  • Curious George – How do you maintain your innocence in this world?

If you could ask 3 real people (living or dead) a question, who would it be and what would you ask each?

  • Grandmother Ruth (Nanny) – Tell me all the stories from your life. She was an amazing survivor and I never got the chance to ask her a million questions. She taught me a lot but had so much more to share.
  • Cousin Joe – What happened that made you feel like your only way out was to end your life?
  • Jesus Christ – What did it feel like to ascend into Heaven knowing where you were going and what was in store?

What is your favorite post that you have written (or 2 or 3)?

  • The Fall of Mankind…again!
  • The Vanishing Door
  • Peace in the midst of chaos

What is your dream?

For there to be no wars, poverty, cruelty, death…

If you could have 3 wishes granted right now, what would they be?

I wish my family could all live together is one huge house where the temperature was never higher than 70.

You have a choice of only 3 things you can keep for the rest of your life; what are they?

A cell phone, a computer and a comfortable chair.

What is something you’ve always wanted to try?

Sky diving. I think it would be the ultimate thrill.

If you could be anywhere right now (real or fictional), where would it be?

North Carolina near my children and grandchildren.

Those are the questions Kat asked me. My questions are the same for my nominees who are listed below.

  • Kat Frost @ More Than I’ve Been
  • Classy Canuck @ Prophecy Six
  • hismasterpiece9 @ Living For Christ One Day at a Time
  • andrewdavidmitchell @ 9-Year Bible
  • mangerministries @ Walk the Talk

And your questions are:

  1. What or who inspires you?
  2. Why do you blog?
  3. If you could spend a day with someone (real, fictional, alive or dead) who would it be and why?
  4. If you could ask 3 fictional characters a question, who would it be and what would you ask each?
  5. If you could ask 3 real people (living or dead) a question, who would it be and what would you ask each?
  6. What is your favorite post that you have written (or 2 or 3)?
  7. What is your dream?
  8. If you could have 3 wishes granted right now, what would they be?
  9. You have a choice of only 3 things you can keep for the rest of your life; what are they?
  10. What is something you’ve always wanted to try?
  11. If you could be anywhere right now (real or fictional), where would it be?

These are the rules for the Liebster Award.

  • Once you are nominated, make a post thanking and linking the person who nominated you.
  • Include the Liebster Award sticker in the post too.
  • Nominate 5 -10 other bloggers who you feel are worthy of this award. Let them know they have been nominated by commenting on one of their posts. You can also nominate the person who nominated you.
  • Ensure all of these bloggers have less than 200 followers.
  • Answer the eleven questions asked to you by the person who nominated you, and make eleven questions of your own for your nominees or you may use the same questions.
  • Lastly, COPY these rules in the post.

Good Luck, God bless and Happy Blogging!

Leave Feedback

Do you ever get annoyed at the “Leave Feedback” buttons on items we buy online? Have you ever thought about what it means not to leave feedback? Do you think it actually matters?

As a new Etsy seller, I can tell you it matters. It makes a huge difference not only to the seller but to buyers as well. When we have a good experience online, it helps others if we provide feedback. It gives an opportunity for improvement, if needed. Or it can give buyers a sense of safety that their choice should be a good one.

This made me wonder how we would do if there was a “Leave Feedback” button on our backs? I recently introduced myself to a nurse who knows my family. She said she had heard about me and it was nice to meet me. It made me think of how we could benefit from feedback.

So, what about the feedback button? I think we need to be providing the people around us with positive and encouraging feedback on a regular basis. Especially children! They are bombarded with so much negative junk that after a long period of time, they won’t know how to receive or deliver it.

I never want anyone to have a reason to leave bad feedback about me. I try to live my life as though I am sitting next to Christ. I make every possible effort to do things that make Him proud of me. It would break my heart to think I had disappointed or disgraced my family or Him.

I am careful about the company I keep because I don’t want anyone to get the wrong impression about me or my motives. I choose my words carefully because I don’t want to beat anyone up, I want to lift them up instead. I try to make everyone around me feel loved and appreciated because I want to be loved and appreciated too. I don’t want people to see me when they look at me, I want them to see Jesus through me.

Who will you give feedback to today?

Stay safe and God bless.

 

What is Love? or What Love Isn’t!

Every now and then I think about the life my ex-husband and I had planned together. It was full of fun and challenges and discoveries and love. Unfortunately he had other ideas. I may never understand why he made the choices he did, but I now know they were his choices. And even though they were not mine, I had to make changes too. I chose to make changes for the better. He didn’t.

We tend to use the word “love” very freely but have you actually looked up the word to see its many meanings? I have included two sources here for us to ponder.

On http://www.dictionary.com, Synonyms for the word “love” are as follows:

 1. tenderness, fondness, predilection, warmth, passion, adoration. 1, 2. Love, affection, devotion all mean a deep and enduring emotional regard, usually for another person. Love may apply to various kinds of regard: the charity of the Creator, reverent adoration toward God or toward a person, the relation of parent and child, the regard of friends for each other, romantic feelings for another person, etc. Affection is a fondness for others that is enduring and tender, but calm. Devotion is an intense love and steadfast, enduring loyalty to a person; it may also imply consecration to a cause. 2. liking, inclination, regard, friendliness. 15. like. 16. adore, adulate, worship.

 In 1 Corinthians chapter 13 and verses 4-7 (New King James Version) God’s defines love as follows.

Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Notice some words that are missing from these definitions: Hate, anger, revenge, jealousy, pride, cruelty, bullying, hostility, pain, lying, resentment, animosity, loathing and meanness just to name a few.

If you see any of the missing habits of “love” in anyone, tell them. They honestly may not realize it. And they certainly won’t realize it is a habit that can be controlled and changed. Then pray for them to recognize their need for change and to have the courage to change that habit. If they rebuke you, move on. If the habits are in you, pray for the courage to change those habits to equal “love”. You’ll see a whole new world open up to you.

When you wake up, you choose to have a good day or a bad day solely based on the  attitude you choose. Life isn’t always beautiful but love is. Make your choices wisely.

Stay safe and God bless.

Consuming Fire!

Don’t Google the questions you need answers for. Go to the source instead. This is prompted after reading several blogs outside of WordPress. One writer was writing about what church should look like. He erroneously proclaimed that the Bible does not contain any instructions on what the church should look like. I am speaking about the church Jesus Christ instructed and described in great detail in scripture.

So I go and Google that question thinking I would find good answers. I was wrong again! Every denomination and self-proclaimed expert has a totally different opinion on the answer. I read a few just to get an idea of why so many people could have it wrong. I discovered that it is a great miracle that anyone has it right.

I found way too many sites where “experts” were defining “church” as a place where you should feel comfortable. Or a place where your feelings matter. Or a place where you can find refuge from the cruel world outside. The list goes on and none of them could quote scripture to back up their “knowledge”. Most of which can be found in 1 Corinthians and Titus. They were preaching about church based on what the average public, who don’t know church or scripture, want to hear.

Yes! You should find a safe church, but does that really exist? You should find a church that has good a/c so you won’t sweat, but is it really necessary? You should find a church who cares about your feelings, but how does that help you grow in Christ?

I think it is awesome that so many people attend church throughout the week. People are involved in evangelizing and growing a community of Christian believers who serve an awesome God. But are they going through the motions or actually getting results.

I know a lot of people who go through the motions. They show up at church when the doors are open because they have nothing else to do. It is something they have done for many many years. They feel they should but have no real feelings about why they are there.

Third Day put out the song “Consuming Fire” several years ago. I not only love the music that goes with this but the words are few but deep.

“Consuming Fire”

Set this place on fire
Send you spirit, Savior
Rescue from the mire
Show Your servant favor
Yesterday was the day that I was alone
Now I’m in the presence of Almighty God

[Chorus:]

And yes our God, He is a consuming fire
And the flames burn down deep in my soul
Yes our God He is a consuming fire
He reaches inside and He melts down this
cold heart of stone.

Set this place on fire
Send Your spirit, Saviour
Rescue from the mire
Show your servant favor
Yesterday was the day that I was alone
Now I’m in the presence of Almighty God

[Repeat chorus]

Did you realize that inside you there is a flame?
Did you ever try to let it burn?

When I go to church, I want to be on fire or at least have a flickering flame or a spark. I don’t want to get wet when I go there, I want to be consumed. I get excited even before I know it is church night. I look forward to learning and seeing what God has in store for me. Sometimes I get to enjoy what He has in store for someone else, and that is just as exciting. Sometimes I feel Him thump me on the head because I got it wrong. That is exciting too. It is my opportunity to learn and change into what He wants me to be.

I go expecting to see miracles, see lives changed, see people come to a real understanding of why they are there and why they matter. Sure you should feel good about church but it isn’t about how you feel. It should be about how you feel God as He is at work in the church and in you. How God is using the people to further His kingdom, to nurture each other and to spread His love. Church shouldn’t be about us. It should be about God!

What’s Missing?

Yesterday I realized something, when Brittany and I were talking about baptism in the Methodist church, she mentioned that babies are baptized. Then I remember talking to people about going to confirmation classes when they were teenagers. It made me realize that when you do that, you don’t have a personal connection with Christ because you didn’t make a personal decision to believe and trust Him. I think it is absolutely necessary to have the relationship you want and need to have with Him. Without that personal connection, He is just a God.

Does That Really Happen?

You know, one of those stories that sound so incredibly unreal they are hard to believe. Like the neighbor who won a million dollars or his dog was eaten by an alligator or he found a valuable antique watch or something in an old chair he just bought at a garage sale. Well, they say that truth is stranger than fiction and I think they are right. I have heard of these stories and read them in the paper etc. for years, but never has one been as close as family.

Unfortunately it isn’t something cool that involves money or saving someones life. My daughter-in-law was driving near her home this afternoon and noticed an unmarked police car in her rear view mirror. Sure enough he pulled her over. When he came to the window to get her license, registration and insurance, he asked her if her weapon was in the vehicle. She said it is. He asked her if it was loaded. She said it is. He asked her where it was. She said in her purse. He said he needed for her to get out of her car. She politely said no, she would not. She told him she was not getting out of the car without her baby. He told her to drive on. She committed no infraction. He had no legal right to pull her over.

My son checked when he got home later and there was no record of her tag being run by the PD. I knew from her wording of what he said to her that it didn’t sound right. I knew there was a fake cop working in their area but I never imagined anything like this would happen to anyone I know. I could scream right now. I hate being so far away and feeling so out of control. It is my nature to protect. And when someone has harmed one of my own, I get irate.

So, what am I doing about it? Praying extra hard! Also, if you are ever pulled over and not sure if the cop is real, call 911 and ask the dispatcher to verify the cop is real. They won’t mind at all.

Father, I know You are in control even when I feel like I’m not but want to be. Please put a stop to this fake cop before someone get hurt. In Christ’s name, Amen.

The Power of Prayer

One of the most important and effective things we can do is to pray for someone. But what do we pray? Sometimes I feel like I pray to little and other times I feel like I pray too much. I want to pray with purpose and focus but how do we do that?

Matthew West is one of my favorite worship singers. I call him that because his songs are worship. I read these lyrics from his song “The Power of a Prayer” and it blew me away. The words are familiar to me as I struggled not too long ago with a spouse who just refused to listen to anyone who opposed his “correct” thinking.

“The Power Of A Prayer”

Dear God, it’s me
Calling out to You
Tonight I’m on my knees
Hoping You’ll come through
This one’s for my dad
Can You help him please
The world’s made him mad
At mom and me
And I’m asking you to bring his heart back home
Oh, the power of a prayer
Mom is all I have
But she’s alone again tonight
They always used to laugh
Now all they do is fight
You know she loves that man
But he’s so far from You
She’s done all she can
But she can’t break through
And she’s begging You to bring his heart back home
Oh, the power of a prayer
Just a whisper in the dark
Spoken from a broken heart
Holding on to one last strand of faith
Somewhere in the world right now
A desperate soul is crying out
Hoping Jesus really hears us when we pray
Dear God, do You
Recognize my voice
I haven’t talked to You
Since I was a little boy
But tonight I heard my son
Pray for his old man
It made me come undone
Made me understand
That only You can bring my heart back home
Oh, the power of a prayer.

My son would be described as a good man even by someone who doesn’t know him very well. So it isn’t that I think he is a bad person who needs a serious change of heart. But I also know that the world can damage our hearts unless we take an active role is keeping it healthy. I am hoping this analogy will help.

Pray for a softened heart to replace the one the world created. Over time, our hearts take a beating. If we don’t give this treatment over to God, our hearts will suffer. Ezekiel 36:26 reads “I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you; I will take the heart of stone out of your flesh and give you a heart of flesh.”

Pray for a clean heart. This world is full of garbage and behaviors it says are OK. Well, it isn’t OK and can make your heart suffer great sorrow because of it. Psalm 51:10 reads “Create in me a clean heart, O God, And renew a steadfast spirit within me.”

Pray they have true desire for God. When we focus on our own desires, they become what is most important to us. If we make God our only true and passionate desire, life in Him is complete. Psalm 27:4 reads “One thing I have desired of the Lord,That will I seek: That I may dwell in the house of the Lord All the days of my life, To behold the beauty of the Lord, And to inquire in His temple.

Pray they find their strength and manhood in God. So many people boast to be great examples of how to live or act or build wealth etc. But no one can honestly boast a better example of strength and manhood than Jesus Christ. 2 Corinthians 12:9 reads “‘And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.”

Here is a sample prayer: Father, give name a new heart and a new spirit created from your own flesh and blood. Teach name to continually cleanse his heart with Your love and forgiveness. May name’s desire be to dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of his life. Teach name to completely rely on God in all areas of his life and that God’s strength is made perfect in his weakness.

Of course the first step in any relationship is commitment. We can’t be a fan of Christ and get by. We have to be followers who desire His heart, His joy, His guidance if we are to receive them.

God bless and stay safe…

I Love Fruit!

I really do. It doesn’t matter what kind, I love it all. I am especially fond of grapefruit. Growing up we had three grapefruit trees and two navel orange trees. My grandmother, two doors down, had a small grove behind and beside her. It was awesome. We ate the ones on the trees and threw the ones on the ground…lol. They made for fun grove fights with cousins, siblings and neighborhood friends. Of course our mothers weren’t thrilled but we had fun.

For nine weeks our pastor has been teaching us the aspects of the Fruits of the Spirit. On http://www.dictionary.com, it is described as “The fruits of the Spirit (Gal. 5:22, 23; Eph. 5:9; James 3:17, 18) are those gracious dispositions and habits which the Spirit produces in those in whom he dwells and works.” The New King James Bible for Galatians 5:22-23 reads “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law.”

I made a point to write down several things I wanted to remember over the course of these several weeks. 1 John 4:7-8 reads “Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. He who does not love does not know God, for God is love. “By this token, since we are made in God’s likeness, we can be known by how we exhibit love. There have been many occasions where my family and I would be at a restaurant or in a store and someone would start talking to us about church or some deep moral issue. I believe we can know other Christians by how we act. We can also know who is not at least exhibiting Christ-like behavior as well. I often watch and listen to people as they interact with each other. When someone chooses to be mean or loud when being gentle and pleasant isn’t that hard, I often want to say something to them. But I figure I’d get shot so I pray it up instead and keep my mouth shut. Our goal should be to love like Jesus.

This joy has it’s source in religion, not so much elsewhere. A relationship with Jesus is necessary to feel real joy. This joy produces a burning desire to share Jesus with other people. If we show true joy, other people will want what makes our joy.

Peace is not just the absence of war. Peace is a choice and has to begin with us. Isaiah used the phrase “Prince of Peace” to describe Jesus in Isaiah 9:6 which reads “For unto us a Child is born, Unto us a Son is given; And the government will be upon His shoulder. And His name will be called Wonderful, Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.” Peace be still comes from Christ and is triggered by our trust in Him.

True patience is completely supernatural. It is not something we are naturally born with. It is infused into us when we love Jesus and love like He does. In 1 Corinthians 13, known as the love chapter; God is love, love is patient, therefore God is patient or He would contradict himself. Patience is perfected in our perfect love for Jesus. It is knowing that He is in control of everything that provides the trust we need to cultivate patience.

Kindness is one of those behaviors you have to work at. Many people who are kind hearted do not speak with kindness. Some come across harsh or even mean because they do not acknowledge their abrupt manner. Kindness and forgiveness also run hand in hand as we see in Colossians 3:12-13 which reads “Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, patience; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do.”

God is good…All the time! It stands to reason that goodness is one of these fruits.  In John 10:11 and 10:14, Jesus declares that He is “the Good Shepard”. If we are to bear fruit and witness to the world, we have to be consistent in our behavior. This is a serious mandate if we are to attempt to mirror Jesus.

God was faithful when he provided the Holy Spirit. He always keeps His promises. He is always faithful. Fear should immobilize us to serve God, not make us run from Him. Adversity and fear (just to name a few) should draw us closer to God, should make us run to the Father, just as a little child will run to their parent’s side. We possess this quality because our God does but He is a jealous God. Our grace comes at the expensive cost of Jesus’ life.

The Greek word for gentleness is prautes. Prautes as defined by the ancient Greeks has several meanings and examples. According to www.ExecutableOutlines,com, Prautes is defined as:

1. To describe persons or things which have in them a certain soothing quality… — E.g, having a humble and kind demeanor which calms another’s anger

2. To describe gentleness of conduct, especially on the part of people who had it in their power to act otherwise… a. E.g., a king forgiving a servant who failed a particular task 1) The king has the authority and power to render punishment 2) But chooses instead to show kindness and forgiveness b. Such a king would be praised for his gentle and meek behavior

3. To describe the ability to take unkind remarks with good nature… a. E.g., as when embroiled in controversy b. Being able to discuss things without losing one’s temper because of unkind and unfair personal remarks

4. Most often, to describe the character in which strength and gentleness are perfectly combined… a. E.g., a horse obedient to the reins, a watchdog friendly to the family owning him b. There is great strength present, but it is tempered by a gentle spirit.

It can also be described as being submissive, teachable and considerate. Again, God is our perfect example. He is able to show gentleness when needed and not when needed.

Self-control is difficult to master. By nature, we want things our way or the easy way. Having self-control is not natural or easy. Without this virtue, the other fruits will not be evident. Without it the works of the flesh cannot be overcome. Self-control starts with the choice to have and execute it. It is easy to run to fear when we are afraid or run to anger when someone wrongs someone. Having self-control propels the other fruits which would remain hidden and undeveloped with out it.

Seeing the big picture of these fruits has given me more understanding of how weaved together they really are. We tend to compartmentalize bits and pieces of ourselves, whether it is memories or behaviors. Seeing how these virtues work together makes making them work together easier.