What is Love? or What Love Isn’t!

Every now and then I think about the life my ex-husband and I had planned together. It was full of fun and challenges and discoveries and love. Unfortunately he had other ideas. I may never understand why he made the choices he did, but I now know they were his choices. And even though they were not mine, I had to make changes too. I chose to make changes for the better. He didn’t.

We tend to use the word “love” very freely but have you actually looked up the word to see its many meanings? I have included two sources here for us to ponder.

On http://www.dictionary.com, Synonyms for the word “love” are as follows:

 1. tenderness, fondness, predilection, warmth, passion, adoration. 1, 2. Love, affection, devotion all mean a deep and enduring emotional regard, usually for another person. Love may apply to various kinds of regard: the charity of the Creator, reverent adoration toward God or toward a person, the relation of parent and child, the regard of friends for each other, romantic feelings for another person, etc. Affection is a fondness for others that is enduring and tender, but calm. Devotion is an intense love and steadfast, enduring loyalty to a person; it may also imply consecration to a cause. 2. liking, inclination, regard, friendliness. 15. like. 16. adore, adulate, worship.

 In 1 Corinthians chapter 13 and verses 4-7 (New King James Version) God’s defines love as follows.

Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Notice some words that are missing from these definitions: Hate, anger, revenge, jealousy, pride, cruelty, bullying, hostility, pain, lying, resentment, animosity, loathing and meanness just to name a few.

If you see any of the missing habits of “love” in anyone, tell them. They honestly may not realize it. And they certainly won’t realize it is a habit that can be controlled and changed. Then pray for them to recognize their need for change and to have the courage to change that habit. If they rebuke you, move on. If the habits are in you, pray for the courage to change those habits to equal “love”. You’ll see a whole new world open up to you.

When you wake up, you choose to have a good day or a bad day solely based on the  attitude you choose. Life isn’t always beautiful but love is. Make your choices wisely.

Stay safe and God bless.

Author: Donna Lynn

I'm a grandma with Fibromyalgia who loves her family and wants to make a difference, even if it is lots of tiny ones. I live in sunny Florida and enjoy my time with family and friends. I'm living with God leading, hoping to someday make some sense of it all. I give Him the glory as much as I can and I love to share Him with everyone.